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AMERICAblog: Traditional marriage, Bible-style

  • kh7463 · 1 year ago
    Get this. My son, 22, and his fiance, 21 in January, have been engaged for a year. She is Baptist, my son follows no organized religion. She wants to be married by a certain Baptist minister. My son doesn't care, wants to be married before he leaves for boot camp on Dec 30th. The minister WILL NOT MARRY THEM if her father is not there to "give her to her husband". Literally. Not "walk her down the aisle", GIVE her to my son. I asked my son when they were going to enter the 21st century. He said this is what the minister believes comes from the Bible. Either way, they are getting married Monday. By the minister in my son's dad's house if the minister decides to, or in our county court house. I prefer the courthouse so I don't smash some spaghetti in that minister's face.
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    I'm with you on this one. Damn . . . they don't even want straight people to get married. This is a very sick religion that needs to control everything in a person's life even denying them the right to marry unless they do it their way, unconditionally.
  • Randy · 1 year ago
    Baptists think everyone is a sinner. Why they hate gays more than any other people, I don't know. But they are pretty high up there on the 'evil indicator.'
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    Amen...
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    It's easy to hate other people's "sins". It gives one the opportunity to feel righteous, and requires no change or sacrifice of one's own.
  • kh7463 · 1 year ago
    Yea, if my almost-daughter-in-law's mother knew some of the things her daughter has done...
  • kh7463 · 1 year ago
    And I think the one in my town is the worst. They even have a college nearby, where they offer a baccalaureate degree in Christian Motherhood. I think I qualify for a master's just from on the job experience.
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    Agreed! I can only wonder if the college is accredited and if so, whose arm did they twist?!
  • agentX · 1 year ago
    Sounds like your son's wife needs to find a new minister.

    I know! Ask them to ask my brother to marry them. He used to marry gay people in California so he has some free time at the moment.

    He is a member of the ULC, so he can perform any ceremony. Bar Mizthvah's, issue Fatwas, summon zombies, perform exorcisms, summon spirits which he then has to exorcise, declare things kosher or hallal, and declare which kid is the reincarnation of Buddha. He doesn't do animal sacrifices unless the couple provides the animal.
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    A true Renaissance man. It looks like he'll never be out of work.

    It was Kh7463's son who was dealing with his bride-to-be's minister, not mine.
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    That's disgusting. My parents could not be married in the church because dad was not Catholic. So they had to get married next door in the rectory. They were a faithful, devoted couple who remained together for thirty years until dad passed away. The priest that refused to marry them in the church was later caught having an affair with a woman and transferred.
  • kh7463 · 1 year ago
    My ex converted to Catholicism before we got engaged because he thought my parents wouldn't let me marry him. Because that is what he had been taught about Catholics by his mother. Thankfully, my parents weren't that shallow. Devoted Catholic's yes, but they believed in my happiness first. Oddly enough, my ex got an annulment after our divorce so he could remarry in the church. Not that he ever goes to mass...
  • mauro7inf · 1 year ago
    Whoa, whoa! Lot's daughters got Lot drunk and had sex with him, but that's portrayed as a BAD thing, not a good thing. The children were the patriarchs of Moab and Ammon, two countries that were enemies of ancient Israel, and this legend was a way of claiming superiority to those countries: Ha, Moab is a product of incest! So let's not say that the Bible ASKS you to do this.

    Interestingly enough, the Patriarchs in Genesis mostly do some really bad, morally ambiguous crap. They often, but not always, suffer consequences from it, but the things they do are still bad.
  • nicho · 1 year ago
    No, but Lot was considered a good and just man -- even though he had offered his daughters up for a gang rape.
  • mauro7inf · 1 year ago
    That's not as bad, in the context of Biblical morals -- John's right to criticize the Bible for this. But it only serves to highlight the fact that the Sodomites wanted the guys and not the girls; it only serves to make it clear that there was homosexuality going on. Besides, Lot was fearful for his life; the townspeople were going to break down the door, and Lot could not possibly sacrifice his guests but could sacrifice his daughters (since they were his property in Biblical times). Lot is not a particularly great and upstanding character, though, generally, and he serves as a kind of foil for Abraham.

    Incidentally, no matter what modern interpreters say, the Bible comes down fairly clearly against homosexuality. That isn't to say that there aren't good arguments for ignoring those parts of the Bible; I read a responsum by a Conservative rabbi a while ago that argued that even though the Torah condemns homosexuality, it requires a bunch of other things like love and respect that outweigh that requirement, or something like that -- I don't remember what the arguments were.
  • Randy · 1 year ago
    Nope, that's not really true. There was no word for homosexuality back then (It wasn't even coined until the mid-1890s). There was no concept of sexual orientation.

    The closest the Bible actually comes is in condemning male prostitutes who used to hang around the temples (Some things never change!)

    As for Lev. 19:22, it says that lying with another man is an abomination, but 'abomination' isnt' what we think of it as today. Back then, it was more along the lines of unclean in a certain sense.

    And that's about all you have. Now, there are hundreds of statements about hetero sex in the Bible, so clearly, gay sex was at most a mere passing interest.
  • mauro7inf · 1 year ago
    Leviticus 20:13 (NJPS)
    "If a man lies with a male as one lies with a woman, the two of them have done an abhorrent thing; they shall be put to death -- their bloodguilt is upon them."

    This comes in a section of sexual crimes. If you're a man: don't fuck a married woman, don't fuck your father's wife, don't fuck your daughter-in-law, don't fuck another man, don't marry both a woman and her mother, don't fuck an animal (this one applies if you're a woman, too). There's some other stuff afterward, but these are all deadly offenses, where both the men and the women involved get killed. Now, that's not ritually impure. That's a capital crime. Ritual impurity was something you could make a sacrifice for and atone, and thereby fix the impurity. Homosexual sex, if Leviticus was followed, got you the death penalty.

    The Bible was obsessed with telling people to worship Yahweh and not other gods. That's the first of the Ten Commandments, and everything from Deuteronomy up through Kings is mostly one big tirade against worship of foreign deities. But that doesn't mean that it doesn't also unequivocally condemn homosexuality. If you want homosexuality to be respected, you have to either not believe the Bible or come up with reasons to override the anti-gay sentiments it expresses -- Christians, for example have found ways to do this by stipulating new deities and whatnot.
  • mauro7inf · 1 year ago
    (To be clear: not believing the Bible is vastly preferable to any alternatives.)
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    "But it only serves to highlight the fact that the Sodomites wanted the guys and not the girls; it only serves to make it clear that there was homosexuality going on. . . ."

    I disagree. If the crowd were homosexual, why would Lot offer his daughters to them? You have been duped by others who prefer to discriminate against gays by perpetuating that same tired conclusion that "God" smote Sodom because of homosexuality when the real reason is that it was because of being inhospitable to the strangers which as we know even today among the Jews and Arabs that one never is inhospitable to guests.

    Incidentally, one is at the mercy of an interpreter's own biases when they are chosen to be the sole, credible interpretation. Interpretations are political and serve certain people in power, then and now. There are many instances of mistranslations throughout the bible and for a person to stand by and say certain earlier versions are the only one's that are correctly translated is ridiculous. The truth is that the Bible is actually, not really clear about homosexuality since the term didn't even exist until much later. Yes, one can quote Leviticus all they want, about "a man lying with another man" and not see a thing written about women lying with other women. This was a patriarchal religion and women were property. It is obvious that if God had written this, there would be no mistakes. For goodness sake, the bible identifies bats as birds!

    You should ask yourself why Jesus never mentioned anything about men lying with other men but said a lot about divorce and adultery, and casting stones at others whilst denying their own sins. I wouldn't be as sure as you are about translations regarding men lying with men.

    Furthermore, the New Testament had many books written whilst only a select number were ever canonized to become a bible most likely because they supported each other whilst the ones that didn't were left out. Surely, you have noticed there are more books canonized in the Roman Catholic Bible than the Protestant Bible. Now why would that be it the Bible is the Alpha and the Omega of Books? Why would one group of Christians leave out books from an older branch of Christianity?

    One could discuss religion until the cows come home and there would be very few agreements in the process.

    One last point, when scroll is translated from Aramaic to Hebrew, to Greek, to Latin, to English and on and on, there are bound to be mistranslations or misinterpretations, whether by accident or by purpose. I wouldn't bet my life on any one of them being the true "Word."
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    I'm with you. Honestly, who cares what they did in the Bronze Age?
  • mauro7inf · 1 year ago
    So first of all, Yahweh didn't destroy Sodom because of their inhospitality -- if you recall the conversation in the previous chapter (Genesis 18) between Yahweh and Abraham, he was going to destroy the city (and the other cities on the plain) because of their wickedness -- a pretty severe wickedness given the severity of the destruction -- and the messengers (or "angels", if you prefer) only came to Lot to tell him to get the hell out. That they were ALSO awful hosts and preferred the sexual companionship of men rather than women is illustration of the wickedness that caused Yahweh to want to destroy the cities.

    Also, why would Lot offer his daughters to a bunch of gay people? Let's rephrase: why would the author of that passage have Lot offering his daughters to a bunch of gay people? Answer: to illustrate that they preferred the sexual companionship of men rather than women -- otherwise it wouldn't be clear that what they wanted with the men was sexual. Besides, there's no reason to suppose that people knew what gay people were like at the time, or even that they existed. People still don't accept this today; Mike Huckabee went on The Daily Show this week and talked about homosexuality as a "lifestyle". It was FAR from being accepted 2800 years ago or whenever the story was composed. The way it's written, it says that "not only did the Sodomites want sex with men, they also refused sex with virgin women". "GASP!" says the ancient Israelite audience.

    On your last point, I think that the text of the Bible has been pretty well preserved in the original Hebrew. It did take about 1400 years or so for it to become standardized as the Masoretic Text, and there are some minor differences between some versions centuries apart, like the Septuagint, the translation into Greek, and the Targum, the translation into Aramaic. From what I've read so far, it looks like they're mostly pretty close, maybe with one word changed here and there, or a daled turned into a resh somewhere, and it's nothing so big as to throw doubt on the meaning of any of the passages in question. Obviously I'm only talking about the Tanach here -- I have no idea what the Christian Bibles contain, and if all of those letters are anything like the Prophets, it's going to be boring as all hell to read.

    Anyway, my point isn't that the Bible should be accepted as the True Word of God™ -- I'm a total atheist -- just that what it says is actually pretty clear. The Bible is a fairly interesting historical document, in my opinion, with the exception (so far; I'm not done reading it yet) of some of the Prophetic books, which are very uninteresting historical documents. You don't have to think the way it says you should think, and, as an atheist, I think that you should avoid thinking that way at all costs. But it takes some fairly heavy bullshitting to come up with ways of saying that the Bible does not condemn homosexuality.
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    Restating my first point, "Isaiah said the sin of Sodom was inhospitality." This viewpoint is not strictly mine.

    Because the offering of Lot's daughters was not accepted, in no way means they must be gay. Put yourself in the same situation. Just because you are offered someone, does it mean you have to do what is offered? What if you weren't in the mood? All of a sudden, it proves you are gay? I stand by my first statement that Lot wouldn't have offered his daughters to the crowd unless they were considered straight.

    Does your definition of "wickedness" always segue to mean, homosexual? Those who are biased regarding homosexuality will lean toward that being the answer. If it has already been said that it was inhospitality in the unerring bible, then it is in disagreement with itself. Also, who is the author of that passage. Is it "god" telling the story or did the scribes get it wrong? Why should one rephrase it only to try and change its meaning? I can say that the parable has been twisted to mean homosexuality by those who's agenda is to discriminate against gays.

    I have heard many descriptions of who wrote the bible. Was it God? Was it man being influenced by God? Was it man making it all up through a series of parables to scare and keep his tribe under control? One, we can be assured that it wasn't god who wrote it. A perfect being like a god would not have made all the mistakes that abound in the bible. A god would know that a bat is not a bird. A god would know that the earth was round and not flat. A god would know that the sun did not revolve around the earth. So could man, inspired by what they think a god would want, write the bible? It makes more sense and would explain their unscientific knowledge of the times and why they would believe the way they do.

    Jesus, actually says nothing about gays and lesbians. One would think that if a person was going to follow in the path of a Christ, they would do their best to be like Him. St. Paul was a very troubled person. The Greek names in his letters for what now are described as homosexual ( a more modern term describing an orientation and not necessarily an act ) meant a "soft" person. I can see where modern bigotry could assume when translating that surely, it means homosexual. But, one has to remember that we are imprinting the biases of a translator into their interpretation of what has been written not necessarily the actual meaning verbatim. Only Paul mentions temple sex and that most likely was for the Jews of the time to keep away from the Baal religion temples where it was a part of their ritual. Again, if one is to be a Christian, one should follow the teaching of Christ, not Paul. If a person is comfortable with following Paul's writings then, change the name of the religion to Paulist or Apologist or something else, but claiming that Jesus was bigoted against gays when there is absolutely no evidence that he said anything about it, is disingenuous.

    I must say that because you think the translations throughout time are "mostly pretty close" is like the game of horseshoes; close don't get it. I would make the point that because one translation to another language seems close enough sometimes only means that the translator didn't keep an open mind. Look at how the Gospels were written. Many of the passages in each are verbatim, meaning that the persons responsible for writing the Gospels copied from one of the earlier Gospels. No wonder they are similar. Also, I remember a show from the 1950s where there were five or six persons seated next to each other. The first one on the left would tell a joke to the next person in another language, and that person would tell the same joke to the next person in another language and so on until the last person told the joke again in English to the audience. It was completely different from the joke the first person told. Such is the problem with translations. So how can one tell anymore what the "true word" actually is when it is allowed to be filtered through each translator's mind and biases?
    I would counter your last statement about it taking some heavy bullshitting to come up with ways of saying that the Bible does not condemn homosexuality by saying that we have had more than a millennium to plant the seed against gays and lesbians by mistranslations and ignoring what actually has been written. The fact that many gospels were not canonized tells me that the religion was formed by what the early church leaders wanted and what they didn't want in their New Testament. Politics and religion, a first! If you are what you say you are, an atheist, then this is all goobley-gook anyways and one shouldn't be taking it for truth at all. I am an atheist and, though it is interesting to watch how these religions evolve, ( and none has evolved more, in my opinion, than the christian church ) I am reassured daily by the acts of malaise by so-called religious folks against others that it was all made up. Knowing that many of the stories of the New and Old Testaments come from earlier religions out of Egypt and we can even follow the Catholic church by watching where they chose to celebrate their holidays. Many fall around the holidays of some of the pagan religions and lift much from them to try and bring in the flock to their own.

    You seem to have a bias towards homosexuality and all I can say is that it is a natural occurrence in nature experienced even by the animals, of which we are included. It is not a choice as I'm sure you didn't make a choice to be straight. You just were and you knew it from an early age. It is the very same thing for gays and lesbians and to say it is a choice can only be correct if I were to choose to pretend that I was a straight person only to fit in this society. Cultures are built around superstitions and religions and gays and lesbians have been in every culture regardless of how strict the culture has been against them from the beginning of time. Think about it; why in the world would a person choose to be gay in a culture like Iran or Iraq unless it was not their's to choose from the beginning?
  • JamesR · 1 year ago
    Unless you are a biblical scholar and schooled in ancient Hebrew thought and literature, and the actual language, NOTHING about these verses is in any way "pretty clear." The author(s) of that text did not think like a clever modern atheist. Lot plainly offered his daughters as was the custom, as would be understood by the first readers of that text. NOT in a modern re-invention of motive including a modern concept of sexuality. Sorry. The association of the story of Sodom and the word "sodomy" with butt sex is much more recent than the origin and true meaning of that story. To interpret it differently is to commit the same lazy and circular ethnocentrism modern fundamentalists use as they justify using only the English translations and modern meanings because of course God wanted it that way...
  • woodnthrifty · 1 year ago
    They offered the girls to the gays because gay was a choice back then and they wanted the men to make another choice. lol
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    What you say is unimpeachable. Unless of course there is no god, and the biblical writers were just pulling all this scripture out of their butts.
  • mauro7inf · 1 year ago
    That's my assumption here, generally.

    But the Biblical writers weren't JUST pulling all this "scripture" out of their butts; they were writing and collecting it thoughtfully with specific goals in mind. And, more specifically, they were writing in their time, under their code of morality. They were trying to clearly pass down what they thought was the word of their patron god Yahweh, to educate the Israelite public on their roots, to instill a reverence for Yahweh (an important thing for national unity, since the alternative wasn't atheism but worship of foreign deities), and so on. And in the case of this particular story in Genesis 19, the writers were fairly clearly coming up with a nice mythological explanation for the salty, barren regions of the plain where the cities were supposed to be located, as well as telling an important story about treating guests, as well as labeling homosexual sex as evil -- not even just sinful.

    Not to mention that Leviticus 20:13 prescribes death for gay sex between men -- one of relatively few offenses to merit the death penalty. If you're going to believe in the Bible, unless you go through all sorts of intellectual contortions of dubious merit, you will have to concede that it says that male homosexuality is very bad.

    It also says that there are many gods, but only Yahweh should be worshipped. And it has two versions of the creation story, conflicting codes of law, and so on. Turns out Talmudic exegesis is mostly just intellectual contortions of dubious merit anyway.
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    Well, here's my problem with the bible.

    He is part of the Holy Trinity. His symbol is the Lamb. He was born of a virgin on December 25th in a cave in the presence of shepherds. Wise men announced his birth. As an infant he had to flee for his life to a foreign land because the king wanted him dead. He had twelve disciples and was considered a great teacher. He was tempted by the Devil who promised him riches. He was known as "the Good Shepherd". He performed miracles. He sacrificed himself for world peace. He was buried, and on the third day he rose from the dead. He was considered the "Way, the Truth and the Light," "Redeemer," "Savior" and "Messiah." He instituted the "Lord's supper." He said, "He who shall not eat of my body nor drink of my blood so that he may be one with me and I with him, shall not be saved." He ascended into Heaven. He was the savior of the world.

    No, the person I'm talking about is not Jesus. His name was Mithra. He was an Indo-Persian god who predates Jesus by 1,500 years. Mithraism was one of the major religions of the Roman Empire. By about the year 100 BC the cult of Mithra had become extremely popular among Roman soldiers who believed that Mithra had died by crucifixion.

    So you see, I just don't take the gospel as gospel. The whole Jesus thing was lifted from Mithra. It was completely typical of Romans to incorporate other people's religions into their own. The cult of Mithra probably entered mainstream Roman society through Greece which had previously conquered Persia. I think a lot of historians think that a person named Jesus did actually live. He was mentioned by Jewish historian Josephus who was born in 37 AD. But most historians believe the passage in Josephus that mentions Jesus was inserted later by Christians. It is completely out of context and breaks the flow. Then there was the Roman historian Tacitus who was born in 55 AD and mentioned Jesus in a work he wrote in 112 AD. But historians think Tacitus got all his information from the stuff that was floating around at that time. Of the 40 or so historians that were writing during the first and second centuries, only those two mention Jesus. Well, except for a second century historian named Suetonius who mentions a "Chrestus" who was a rebel. Christians insist it was just a misspelling of "Christus". But in fact "Chrestus" was a very common Greek name, and was the name of a Jewish rebel at that time.

    By the time the New Testament was compiled, the persona of Jesus had basically become Mithra. Though the Mithra legend differs from the Jesus legend in many ways, the 27 striking similarities listed above can not statistically have been merely due to coincidence. The Jesus of the New Testament is derived from Mithra.

    And the Old Testament was never intended to be what it became either. People quibble over its every word in an effort to apply it literally as the "Word of God" when it is very clearly the word of men. Pity then that so many people have based everything upon such shaky ground. It makes it all the more irritating when total strangers clutching a book of scriptures come knocking on my door with their message that my life is somehow messed up.
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    Being gang raped by angels isn't all that bad, unless you're allergic to feathers.
  • RainbowPhoenix · 1 year ago
    The angels were the ones who were going to BE gang raped.
  • agentX · 1 year ago
    See, that's the part of the story that I never really understood.

    They're ANGELS. Why didn't they fly away, or at least just start obliterating things and people? You'd figure a celestial being would come to Earth with at least enough power to not get gang-raped by a desert village.
  • mauro7inf · 1 year ago
    Well, uh, they did! They threw down a flash grenade and pulled Lot, his wife, and his two unmarried daughters (the married ones didn't believe the angels' warnings) out of town. The whole point of their going to Sodom anyway was to get Lot out before Yahweh destroyed the cities on the plain. The deal is that Lot didn't know that the men were angels; he was just treating them with hospitality. I'm thinking now that this might be a kind of archetypal hospitality story, much like some stories about Zeus rewarding good hosts and punishing bad ones, that made it into Israelite (and thus Judeo-Christian) mythology.

    Also, Genesis messengers ("angels" is a more modern term) couldn't have possibly been that powerful, because Jacob wrestled with one and won. Though maybe that one was just impossibly weak.
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    " . . .E dal mio labbro u sei l'empia parola! ."

    ( I couldn't help myself )
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    Which is why Christians learned to do bad things and make OTHER people suffer for it.
  • KerrynowCampau · 1 year ago
    Oh my! I should have been executed a long time ago...
  • swhite · 1 year ago
    Given C and F -- If a woman's husband dies, and he has a brother, she'll end up executed? (Because she is no longer a virgin, thus the marriage with her husband's brother would not be valid, and she'd be executed).

    I guess the lesson is, don't marry a man if he has a brother.
  • KerrynowCampau · 1 year ago
    I was trying to wrap my head around that one as well.

    Must be assuming no kids = no sex.
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    There are always loop-holes made up to get around the first set of rules. It's quite obvious that man had a huge hand at making up the rules in the name of God..
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    Actually, man made up all the rules, except for the ten commandments, which were carved out of a rock by the hand of God himself. The rest were just dreamed up by writers. All we have is those two tablets from God, and unfortunately Moses was a klutz and dropped them. Well, ok, he threw them. Gosh, I sure wish I knew what Moses said when he threw those stone tablets at the poor Israelites who'd gotten bored wandering in the desert and decided to throw a party. I've tried listening to it several times, but Chuck Heston had the most ATROCIOUS diction. "Woooo untooooo thoeeoe, oooo Isroooooel....... Yoooo hooove soooined a greoooot sinnn inn the ois of the Loooooord. Foor thoois yooou shooool drooink boittor woootoors!!!!!"
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    Ha! I think he went to the "Oklahoma School of Diction." I just had a thought, what would it be like having him rant that phrase at Lisa Dolittle with her chanting of "The rrrain in Spain, fall mainly on the plain?" His diction didn't change much in "Planet of the Apes" for that matter. ;-)

    Actually being a non-believer, I give man all the credit or the blame, depending on how you look at it, for writing the Bible.
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    Unless the brother is gay.
  • Older_Wiser · 1 year ago
    I'd bet 99.9% of all marriages in the US don't practice all of the above...(the FDLS probably do, though since they like multiple wives (or concubines) and 12 yr old virgins and believe in incest as well).
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    Well, no, I don't know any fundies that practice Leviticus. For example I've never heard even one woman shouting "Unclean!" during that special time of the month. But they do try to adhere as closely to biblical teaching as possible. That's why they have the highest divorce rate in the nation.
  • Laura_in_CC · 1 year ago
    But ... what if your father is dead? Who can you get drunk and screw with to satisfy G*d?
  • RainbowPhoenix · 1 year ago
    I think you're supposed to do it with the next closest male relative in that case.
  • Johnny · 1 year ago
    C'mon now, we all know the Fundies are doing all kinds of crazy stuff behind closed doors.
    I mean look at Chickenhawk Chambliss feeling up his granddaughter in a TV commercial!
    Larry Wide Stance just keeps digging the hole deeper.
    I could go on and on, but everybody knows the moral psychos are always the ones doing the most outlandish stuff when they think nobody is looking.
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    I guess Vitter was just cavorting with his concubines whilst wearing a diaper. Nope, I'm not going to go there. ;-)
  • Sub · 1 year ago
    Actually, divorce is different. The man simply made a public statement that he had divorced his wife and bingo, he was the town's most eligible Bachelor again. Alimony....not a chance.
  • nicho · 1 year ago
    Well, there was a form of alimony. The divorced wife was allowed to take with her any possessions she could carry. Since she couldn't usually carry off camels or sheep, many women developed a talent for getting their husbands to buy them jewelry. That way, they could make off with something valuable.
  • moreleesafer · 1 year ago
    funny, you should mention that. In some Arabic countries engaged or newly married women get their hubbies to be or their families to buy them lots of gold. in the documentary I saw a young woman from a wealthy country like Dubai flat out stated that the jewelry was like an insurance policy for the woman if the husband should leave her with nothing.
  • Dave of the Jungle · 1 year ago
    Execute your wife and then massacre a wagon train moving west from Arkansas.

    It's the American Way.
  • RonNYC · 1 year ago
    More fun from the OT:
    Deuteronomy 22

    22 If a man is caught lying with the wife of another man, both of them shall die, the man who lay with the woman as well as the woman. So you shall purge the evil from Israel.

    23 If there is a young woman, a virgin already engaged to be married, and a man meets her in the town and lies with her, 24you shall bring both of them to the gate of that town and stone them to death, the young woman because she did not cry for help in the town and the man because he violated his neighbour’s wife. So you shall purge the evil from your midst.

    25 But if the man meets the engaged woman in the open country, and the man seizes her and lies with her, then only the man who lay with her shall die. 26You shall do nothing to the young woman; the young woman has not committed an offence punishable by death, because this case is like that of someone who attacks and murders a neighbour. 27Since he found her in the open country, the engaged woman may have cried for help, but there was no one to rescue her.

    28 If a man meets a virgin who is not engaged, and seizes her and lies with her, and they are caught in the act, 29the man who lay with her shall give fifty shekels of silver to the young woman’s father, and she shall become his wife. Because he violated her he shall not be permitted to divorce her as long as he lives.

    30 *A man shall not marry his father’s wife, thereby violating his father’s rights.*

    I would like to apply these standards to the GOP.
  • bearclaw · 1 year ago
    Hey, nice work -- you quoted the scripture about paying Dad the 50 silver coins and marrying the girl! Isn't that just so unbelievably romantic? Let's see the Pro-8 churches line up behind that Biblical standard!
  • RonNYC · 1 year ago
    And, just for the heck of it, read Leviticus; it's MUCH WORSE!
  • Anonymous · 1 year ago
    Today the old book is useless, many religious people focus more on the new book. So, Markos should make points from this book, no from the old, like that Jesus stated that the most sinner act is to divorce, then to marry again with other under religious ceremony, because nobody can break the bond that was blessed by God.
  • judybrowni · 1 year ago
    Ah, but all the "clobber" verses quoted by fundie bigots come from the Old Testament, because Jesus had nothing to say, one way or the other, about homosexuality.

    Those who live by Leviticus -- well, they should also be stoning their neighbors for watching TV on Sunday, to go by their own logic.
  • RainbowPhoenix · 1 year ago
    The new testement had a quote by Paul, but the accuracy of that translation is more than a little suspect.
  • foxy · 1 year ago
    Paul's letters are like a one sided conversation. With a lot of slang and colonialism's of that time and era. After all he was a college drop out frat boy...well you know who's our Prezident today.
  • RainbowPhoenix · 1 year ago
    Which combines with the issue of translation to make them even more suspect.
  • bearclaw · 1 year ago
    Yes, the translation of Paul's letters from their original 1st century Greek has been the subject of considerable mischief. There are two terms that have been translated as "homosexual" (also interesting in that the term "homosexual" didn't exist until the 19th century). The first term, "malakos", literally means "soft" and was commonly used in writings of the time to refer to men who were not sufficiently "manly" by standards of the time. This included men who spent too much of their time pursuing pleasure, including sexual relationships with women. In other words, Hugh Hefner would be "malakos" by the standards of Paul's time. The other term is "arsenokoitai" and appears almost nowhere in other writings of the time. It is a compound word, and literally translated, it means "man penetration." But there is a strong basis for believing that it refers to forcible acts committed by a superior (master) on an inferior (servant). In any event, translating compound terms is problematic. Anyone want to explain why "quarterback" doesn't refer to someone who is missing 3/4 of his spine?
  • jcgraham77 · 1 year ago
    THey would argue that he said "remember Sodom"
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    But the "sin of Sodom" is unclear. Isiah said it was lack of hospitality. Personally I think it was that they didn't use deodorant.
  • Sigh · 1 year ago
    Having lived for a time near an ultra-orthodox community in New York, I recall there being quite the controversy when stones were thrown at fire trucks responding to a blaze in the neighborhood which took place on the sabbath.

    Just sayin'
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    I disagree. The thumpers salivate using the Old Testament against gays and lesbians. They pick and choose which rules they'll follow but, never the less, that is their weapon.
  • bearclaw · 1 year ago
    And no one in the MSM ever points out to the fundamentalists that this "traditional Biblical marriage" they mythologize was a property transaction, not much different than buying and selling livestock ("Nice heard of sheep, Levi. I'd like to buy the ewe with the black spots on her hindquarters.") Thus, (sorry, don't have the chapter and verse citation at hand), the Biblically prescribed punishment for a man who raped a young girl was that he had to pay the girl's father 50 silver coins, and he had to marry the girl (she had no choice in the matter) and he couldn't ever divorce her. ("Hey, I could have made some money off this daughter of mine, and you have made her damaged goods. So pay me, and marry her!") Next time you hear a fundamentalist talk about "Biblical inerrancy" or "not changing a word of Scripture" or some similar nonsense, ask them if they would accept this as punishment for a man who rapes their daughter. ("Darn sorry that man raped you, dear, but he's been punished. Look, 50 silver coins! And even better, you get to spend the rest of your life married to him. Hey, don't thank me. Nothing but the best for Daddy's little girl.")
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    LOL! Loved it!

    Here's one to throw out to the next "Biblical inerrancy" bible thumper that comes thumping on your door. Ask them how many angels were at the tomb of Jesus. The correct answer is one, two, a multitude, or none, depending on whether you read Matthew, Mark, Luke or John.
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    Oh yes, the bible. I remember it well. There is the passing reference to homosexuality in Leviticus, but much of Leviticus is devoted to dietary restrictions and the proper way to buy and sell slaves. Slaves seemed rather cheap back then, but with inflation I'll bet they'd fetch a pretty penny nowadays. Maybe that's why the practice stopped. Good Christians just couldn't afford slaves any more. Besides, even though Leviticus 25:44 states that we may possess slaves provided they are purchased from neighboring nations, the Canadians would just never go for it.

    Honestly, what was so wonderful about Bronze Age thinking that we should pattern modern society after it? Take the whole stoning thing, for example. If somebody cursed, you were supposed to get the whole town together to stone them to death according to Leviticus 24:10-16. Well, that's fine if you're living in some Bronze Age rock pile near the Dead Sea 3,400 years ago when Leviticus was written. But what if you're out there on the American prairie? Where are you supposed to get rocks? It's hard enough to get your hands on enough firewood to burn the folks that sleep with their in-laws. (Leviticus 20:14) And it wasn't any big deal to refrain from work on the Sabbath in those days, so when Exodus 35:2 said anyone working on the Sabbath had to be die, no problem. But now we have flex time to deal with. And what do we wear to the office? Leviticus 19:19 forbids the wearing of mixed fibers. But forbidding cotton/poly blend? Come on! How many guys know how to iron an all-cotton shirt? And Leviticus 11:6-8 says it's an abomination to touch the skin of a dead pig, but they would never have made that rule if football had been as big as it is now. And shellfish. Sure, it was no problem making the eating of shellfish an abomination for people living in the middle of a broiling desert. What did they care about Leviticus 11:10? But nowadays we've got refrigeration and shellfish is everywhere. It's even in cat food. What? You're supposed to let your cats eat better than you do??

    Honestly, if people want traditional marriage, they should forget about the Bronze Age and stick to the modern era. We should go back to traditional marriage of the 1800's when women were the legal property of their husbands, and he could beat the crap out of them whenever he wanted.
  • bumpkis · 1 year ago
    Does it say anything in there about sister in law? Just curious.
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  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    How true. But, of course, when one practices "cafeteria religion" one gets to pick and choose which rules and regulations the "tribal elders" offer and which one's match our own bigotry.

    It great to be a man in a patriarchal religion. (snark)
  • jcgraham77 · 1 year ago
    Problem: Most protestants in the US will argue they follow the new testament only...
  • Randy · 1 year ago
    And the NT says nothing at all about gays. Yet somehow they still are able to read between the lines and find that it's the greatest sin of all, since that's all they ever seem to talk about!
  • jcgraham77 · 1 year ago
    Actually yes it does...thats if you take the modern Christianist view. Christ referred to Sodom in one verse and there are several others. No one fly off the handle at me...I am gay and don't buy it.
  • RainbowPhoenix · 1 year ago
    Christ never mentioned it. Paul allegedly did, but like I said earlier, the accuracy of that translation is suspect.
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    . . .and Paul was certainly suspect.
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    It's ok, though, Jc, because Sodom is one of those biblical contradictions. The so-called "sin of Sodom" was said in one source to be homosexuality (or just some kinky straight thing), but Isaiah said the sin of Sodom was inhospitality. Hospitality was a big deal to those desert folks. If you refused to take in a visitor, you might find them dried up on your doorstep the next morning. And besides, none of those old testament folks knew a thing about gay people. Well, clearly. I mean, just look at how they dressed! No. They were mostly concerned about straight folks getting kinky with each other at celebrations in front of golden calves and the like. It really really gave them gas.
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    Well, unfortunately Saint Paul had a few unkind words about gays, and lord knows he saw plenty of them, being Greek and all. But honestly, who listens to Saint Paul. He never actually new Jesus. And if Jesus had actually known Paul, I don't think he would have liked him. Paul was quite the jerk. He only found Jesus after falling off a horse and hitting his head, and I really don't that should qualify anyone as an expert.
  • Butch1 · 1 year ago
    Interestingly, Paul referred to himself as an apostle and no one else called him that.
  • foxy · 1 year ago
    People have to remember, Paul or Saul as was his real name may of seen JC only once...then he seen a talking donkey on some kind of mushroom trip.
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    You mean he wasn't even riding a horse? Cheap bastard.
  • foxy · 1 year ago
    Mostly Paul was talking about temple orgies....well after all he should of know he was a frat boy.
  • Webster · 1 year ago
    Eddie Izzard explains him best:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eoBYYElyP4c
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    Go Eddie! Lol. You know, the Corinthians probably DID write Paul back. But there was no way the prick would ever publish it.
  • Webster · 1 year ago
    "Never lean over on Tuesdays." Saint (apparently) Paul was sort of a daft git.
  • liberaldemdave · 1 year ago
    Credit should be given where credit is due. A-G are not the work of Markos. The link takes you to a diary by Kos referencing a diary by "jem6x" where "gladkov" made the comment that John attibutes to Markos.

    Folks that go to the time to do the research deserve the credit.
  • Raymond T. Anderson · 1 year ago
    I know that piece. It was sent to me as an e-mail years ago, attributed to Protestants for the Common Good. A search of their website reveals that though they did disseminate it, they did not write it. It seems to be a rewritten form of a 2003 article from the Boston Phoenix
  • JamesR · 1 year ago
    This is why Catholics were traditionally forbidden then discouraged from actually reading the Bible for themselves, until Vatican II. It's so confusing unless you already know what it means first!
  • foxy · 1 year ago
    I personally prefer using the word "Roman's" as they are not "Catholic" in the true sense of the word. It is the same way the word "Christian" has been hijacked. They assumed the word. However, in prior history it was illegal even to own a "Bible".
  • JamesR · 1 year ago
    Yes - "Catholic" actually, ironically, means "universal." We could also accurately call Popes 'Little Caesars' but that would slander a good pizza chain.
  • woodnthrifty · 1 year ago
    Tooooo Funny!
  • kh7463 · 1 year ago
    I was raised Roman Catholic and didn't read the bible until this past year (I'm 45 btw). But if I think back of all the stories and everything I learned in elementary school (yes, Catholic), I already knew the basics in there anyway. It wasn't anything "new", but yes, it was very confusing. I admit, I had to skip that whole "begat" part.
  • Nylund · 1 year ago
    It should be noted that "G" isn't really required. Its more like a suggestion of one of the alternatives available. Also note that the reason all the men turned down the father's offer of his daughters as their sex toys is because they were gay. And, the reason the girls had to get their dad drunk and have sex with him is because all the available straight men were collateral damage in God's quest to kill off all the gay people in town.

    So G should really read more like, "If your dad tried to whore you out, but none of the guys in town took him up on the offer because they were gay, and if in your quest to kill said gay people, the entire city (and the neighboring one) get destroyed killing all the straight men along with all the gay ones, and you have no one else to impregnate you, one possible solution to consider is for you and your sister to get your dad drunk and have a threesome with him, provided of course your mother also died in the quest to murder off all the gay people, because if mom is still alive it might be considered adultery for daddy which is much much worse than killing 2 cities worth of people or engaging in incest."
  • voicewithin · 1 year ago
    First, the verses quoted DO NOT APPLY to Mormons... Mark 10:9 may apply to Mormons... Ask a Christian.

    Second, 14 of the 15 references quoted are from Ha Tenach, {The Old Testament}. Christians teach the Old Testament was done away with i.e. replaced with the New Testament SO STOP QUOTING Ha Tenach!

    Third, Ha Tenach was written to B'nai Yisroel i.e. the Children of Israel. This means a historical perspective is necessary to understand what is written and how it applies.

    Fourth, the references were taken out of context.

    Fifth, who ever wrote this article can POUND SAND!!

    http://www.ibelievethis.us
  • JamesR · 1 year ago
    The Rabbi Joshua Ben Joseph would probably agree with you. However, um, that's kinda the whole point!? Except for the sand pounding part, especially as the author of the post was simply pointing out the hypocrisy and stupidity of literal minded so-called "Christians."

    And BTW - after reading your blog's post regarding opposition to same sex marriage, the abomination of homosexuality and your religious views, have you seen "Trembling before G-d?" http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0278102/
  • voicewithin · 12 months ago
    JamesR, I have not seen 'Trembling before G-d' but I plan to. Thank you for the link. Would you care to share any insights with me.

    Thanks!

    http://www.ibelievethis.us
  • shanobama · 1 year ago
    The 'Ha Tenach' is the sole source for gay discrimination always cited by 'religious' people.

    There is nothing in the New Testament, and Jesus said nothing about homosexuality.
    The New Testament was written for both Jew and Gentile, all others. No discrimination.

    The main point of the coming of the Messiah was....God is love and you can be sons of God through Jesus, right?
    Redemption not exclusion.
  • For The Record · 1 year ago
    He did not teach "redemption". He taught "Repentance" - Luke 5:31, 32: "Jesus answered and said to them, "Thos who are well have no need for a physician, but those who are sick. I have come not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance". And in Luke 9:23-27: "Then He said to them all, "If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross *daily*, and follow Me. For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will save it. For what does it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and he himself is destroyed or lost? For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words, of him the Son of Man (Jesus) will be ashamed when He comes in His own glory, and in His Father's, and of the holy angels."
  • voicewithin · 12 months ago
    No! 'Ha Tenach' is NOT the sole source for gay discrimination. It is people that discriminate. It is true Ha Torah Does not support same sex relationship. Ha Torah calls this Toh Aw Vah an abomination. HOWEVER Ha Torah ALSO Says adultry is Toh Aw Vah an abomination.

    The religious right and possible even the religious center point to the Tow Aw Vah of same sex relationships while at the very same time ignoring the Tow Aw Vah of sins Ha Torah Defines as Tow Aw Vah.

    It is people who choose to discriminate! It is people who choose to hate and be mean spirited!

    Speaking of the Messiah, Jesus is not my Messiah! Yet, there is a very interesting quote attributed to Jesus in Luke 17:24. 'I tell you, in that night there shall be two men in one bed; the one shall be taken, and the other shall be left.'

    This couldn't possible mean....

    Regarding love... Lets leave the judgment to G-d and be loving and kind to all of humanity!


    http://www.ibelievethis.us
  • RitornaVincitor · 1 year ago
    It's all so silly. People pouring over Stone Age texts, parsing every word, and rushing about with a sense of urgency. It looks so ridiculous to outsiders. Try to imagine it from the eyes of nonbelievers. Look at some of the political conflicts in the world that are based on writings from thousands of years ago. This person may not live here because God gave us this land.... that person is untouchable, etc, etc, etc..... The common element is that to these people the truth must be found in a book, or from a religious authority. None of them seem to look within themselves to find the truth. I'm no longer a Christian, but Jesus did say that the kingdom of heaven is within us. I don't think he was talking about some imaginary world. I think he meant that we should look inside, not outside.
  • voicewithin · 12 months ago
    Interesting comment. I believe the potential for goodness, kindness, harmony, peace is within us. The potential for hate, anger and worse is also within us. Do you really think the problem is in following Stone Age texts? I don't think so! The problem is us.

    I am not a Christian. I am Jewish. Does being Jewish really change the picture? The word ridiculous does not work for me. Maybe laughable but it's not funny. Maybe mockery is the word... I feel like many religious leaders etc. make a mockery of those Stone Age texts.

    http://www.ibelievethis.us
  • smallhandff · 1 year ago
    Polygamy or "celestial marriage" has never been eradicated from the Mormon principals as espoused by Joseph Smith. The fact that the modern LDS Elders have shunned it, for the sake of political convenience, doesn't mean it still ain't on the books.
  • mattycakes · 1 year ago
    All religions should be banned! All they have done over hundreds of years is caused wars, hate, rules that are MAN MADE, that take away a Human's Free Will. We can all be spiritual without towing the line to any particular religion. You don't have to belong to a Religion to Love God if you want to.
  • MikeinSanJo · 1 year ago
    ABSOLUTELY!!

    Won't the xtians be in a tizzy when the Scientologists start taking over local governments (as Xtians have done) and start passing laws to edify their own religion. Think xtians will have a new opinion on the separation of church and state then?
  • For The Record · 1 year ago
    Two things - 1) this blog has taken the very OLD testament verse, which pertains specifically to Jewish history, out of context. It does not consider the relationship between God and "His" people, or the situations under which the verses are stated. As an example, Deuteronomy 22:13-21 is speaking to an *arranged* marriage of a daughter given in marriage to another man, which was very common for that time over 4000 years ago. Historically, that is neither a surprise nor an expectation that any woman is given in marriage nor stoned in today's times for not being a virgin . Furthermore, to read what Paul writes in his letter to the Romans, you will discover the meaning of old and new testament and why this "tradition" does not apply.

    But what applies even more is that this blog OVERLOOKS the greater words of the NEW testament spoken by Jesus Himself about marriage - specifically *PRIOR* to Mark 10:9, starting with Mark 10:5: "And Jesus answered and said to them, "Because of the hardness of your heart he (Moses) wrote this precept (concerning divorce). But from the beginning of creation, God 'made them male and female (Genesis 2:24). For this reason a man shall leave his mother and father and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.' Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate". If this isn't clear, I don't know what to tell you - it's a spiritual marriage that God alone sanctifies - so why would anyone consider even divorce likely if it has God's blessing?

    If you're going to use the Bible for your preaching, use it rightly so and with correct context! As a Christian, I have no issue with your cause because what gays and lesbians and secularists fail to realize is this: Marriage historically in all religions has been between a man and woman because marriage by definition is a spiritual bond, not just a *legal* one. In fact, the concept of *legal* marriage by a government system is far more modern than the institution of marriage itself. So, if you want to *separate* the concept of spiritual marriage from *legal* marriage, that then is what you need to do. Otherwise, you will have to explain to Hindus, Muslims, Christians, Jews, Zoarastians, Sikhs, and a few other religions out there - that the concept of marriage is anything but between a man and woman. Perhaps you could find equal footing in their sacred documents as well to help you, as you've attempted to do with the Bible. In fact, I would appreciate it that you would do so because frankly I don't appreciate when it is incited alone, as if it were the sole enemy of gays and lesbians. It's not - open your eyes and look around.
  • JamesR · 1 year ago
    Oddly enough you have just proved the whole point of the post. And indeed since the concept of legal marriage is a modern one, as is a secular democratic republic, we need to keep the concept of religious marriage and secular marriage separate. And as civil legal marriage has been very non-traditionaly 're-defined' as to give women equal rights as men, and to give each the right to divorce. So this must continue, secularly, to the extension of these rights to men and men and women and women. Your religion can still say it's wrong - it's not about your religion! If you don't like gay marriage, don't have a gay marriage. - Just don't deny me the right in my own country too, to have the equal right to marry the partner of my choice. The only argument against this is a RELIGIOUS one, which is NOT the standard for America. My government does not define a "spiritual bond" - that is religion's purview and none of my government's business. My government gives me a legal contractual bond the same way your minister cannot give you a divorce.

    Nice you've noticed that the Bible has been often used as a club (weapon) and that it is wrong. No one is preaching here, it is deconstructing the sorry preaching of others. The whole point of the post is that these out of context old testament verses are the more often used, as clubs, selectively. Usually by non-observant non-Jews much less educated in their own professed sacred word than you. There is no reasoning with it other than to point out the contradictions so that they take a pause. And try to get the conversation from battling religious views to equal rights in a civil and yes, necessarily secular society.
  • Wesinoregon · 1 year ago
    I do wish the religious right would get their bible right. On one hand they say one thing and then another. Huckabee on Jon Stewart Show said that marriage has been defined for 6,000 years. That dates back to the Old Testament. So which definition is it? From 1200 AD or 6,000 years? Either way, the definition has been changed over time and has NOT been set in stone all this time.
  • MikeinSanJo · 1 year ago
    Yet no mention of biblically sanctioned pedophilia?

    Back in the day, pre-teen girls were married (sold) off as soon as they could start bearing children.
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  • Incog · 11 months ago
    We could split hairs about what certain biblical passages really mean in regards to homosexuality.

    As a gay woman myself, I prefer to leave Christianity the hell alone (no pun intended), rather than vainly attempt to twist it into something more pallatable for me - which is something that I see my gay Christian sisters and brothers doing all the time.

    It sickens me to no end. WHY would i want to claim allegiance to religion that has shown me over and over that it does not want me, as i am??? It's no different from insisting on trying to be friendly to a person who has shown you in no uncertain terms that he does not wish to be friendly towards you.

    For all it's talk of "loving thy neighbor" and leaving judgement to God, Christianity has proven to be judgemental, hypocritical, hateful, and spiteful. Or maybe, rather - Christians themselves have taken the Christ out of Christianity.

    To my gay christian brothers and sisters - I hope you can learn to love yourself unconditionally instead of chasing a religion that hates you and wants you to hate yourselves.